برهانيات كوم
Question: Are the men permitted to become Murshid to the women?Yes, as we already said earlier, the husband of a woman, or her father or brother, or her maternal / paternal uncle. [Muhrim = close relative]
Question: Even if her husband is Egyptian and her mother is German?16 Mawlana said this sentence, as someone with an alcohol problem came to him, wanting to take Tariqa.Could it be that they are stubborn here in Germany? But religion is the good advice. It should actually be that if a woman has accepted him as her husband, and lives together with him for years, she should also listen to him in the matter of her Irshad. Or one takes her to the responsible female Murshid of her region.What is Irshad? Irshad is only then necessary if there is an existing reason; to control ones Awrad, or if someone became “mikashkish” by reading something the wrong way. This situation would call for going to the Murshid (male/female). In this situation, a woman should listen to her woman Murshid, in case she does not listen to her husband. To a “Mikashkisha” you should give Al-Hizbu-l-Kabir, because it stables and strengthens the delicate soul. “Mikashkisha” means for example: one screams in the Hadra, or weeps immediately at listening to Qasaid, or reading Quran. Al-Hizbu-l-Kabir is good for that.
Question: What if someone we are trying to help with his Awrad rejects it, are we nevertheless responsible for him?This subject is a problem in Germany. It is difficult in Germany. A Murshid should guide the others. On the other hand, many of the Muridin measure the Murshid by intellectual standards: They compare themselves with him, finding fault in his intellect, age, or status. This is wrong. Leave the baker to baking his bread. You have to ask the man of religion. Ask the knowledgeable ones. It could so happen that the Murshid has more knowledge on Sufism than you do. He might just know the Tariqa well, and everything about it. Perhaps you possess a different knowledge, for instance about computers, which he might not. But the knowledgeable in religion knows what is to be done.If we find someone to be arrogant and proud, we advise him to be diligent in his Awrad, so he may kill the egos. The egos are following:Al-Amara, the ego that prompts the person to bad actions,Al-Lauwama, the self accusing ego,Al-Mul’hama, the intuitive ego,Al-Mut’ma’ina, the calmed ego,Al-Radi’a, the complacent ego,Al-Mardi’a, the satisfied ego,Al-Kamila, the perfect ego.The killing of the egos is the result of diligently reading Awrad, and following the example of the Shayhks. He, who turns to us, shall throw out all bad, and come to us only to improve, by reading Awrad. And if you are diligent in reading Awrad you will get a “taste”, sense of the good, and will regret the times you spent before Islam. Immediately after declaring the “Shahada”, one feels like a burden has been lifted out of one’s chest. There is a sense of joy and warmth, right after saying: “Ash’hadu an la ilaha illallah wa ash’hadu anna Muhammadun Rasul Allah (s. a. w. s.)”To the person who rejects the help in Awrad, one should give a copy of the cassette. He can go home and listen to it there. With its help, he can control his pronunciation, also of the Suras or Hadiths. The Awrad are to kill the egos.
Question: Even if her husband is Egyptian and her mother is German?16 Mawlana said this sentence, as someone with an alcohol problem came to him, wanting to take Tariqa.Could it be that they are stubborn here in Germany? But religion is the good advice. It should actually be that if a woman has accepted him as her husband, and lives together with him for years, she should also listen to him in the matter of her Irshad. Or one takes her to the responsible female Murshid of her region.What is Irshad? Irshad is only then necessary if there is an existing reason; to control ones Awrad, or if someone became “mikashkish” by reading something the wrong way. This situation would call for going to the Murshid (male/female). In this situation, a woman should listen to her woman Murshid, in case she does not listen to her husband. To a “Mikashkisha” you should give Al-Hizbu-l-Kabir, because it stables and strengthens the delicate soul. “Mikashkisha” means for example: one screams in the Hadra, or weeps immediately at listening to Qasaid, or reading Quran. Al-Hizbu-l-Kabir is good for that.
